Friendship and Friendzone

Intriguing title no? The 1st one is what a guy dies for whereas the 2nd one is what a girl dies to put any guy she knows. But here am not going to focus much on guy-guy or girl-girl friendship ........... we know its value and its meaning but still we're all afraid of getting friendzoned i.e boy by a girl or viceversa. The million dollar trending question these days is how to get out of friendzone. I have some views that I want to share, so read on.

The reason behind this post is simple: to give a new direction + insight. I'm seeing this little game since my college days (from class 11) and in my 29 years of age I haven't seen anyone happy with being only a friend to a girl, whom they claim to give anything. Thats why I am listing down my views, hope you'll find them helpful.

I] Its just a friendship, not a time-pass: The words (Boyfriend/Girlfriend) itself says it. this is just a friendship. Friendship is always mixed with love and mutual likeness. So don't indulge in love for just having a trophy. When and only when you're confidant of getting into a deeper commitment (if not, then why the hell are you after that guy/girl?), search or get acquainted with him/her whom you find as a reflection of yourself.

II] Be Confidant: No one likes to see you afraid and ashamed ........ there's too much negativity in it. Take me as an example. I may not have a physique but I am a good person, eager to help and has power to put a smile in your lips. And for this nature, people like me and admire me too. But if, whom you think you love (probably for the rest of your life), dont has a fascination to share your interests too and look deep to search for the person you really are, then I guarantee he/she is not meant for you ........... the perfect one is still waiting.

III] Be Patient and Never Give Up: Consider you have found her, your perfect match but too afraid to jeopardize your friendship by revealing your love. Then I suggest to be patient and wait for the perfect time. Take her as a challenge, the challenge you have to win, so no scope of mistakes. Never give up and wait for the perfect timing. And during that time, deliver your best. Even if she doesn't acknowledge, you'll have one satisfaction: You gave a shot. And always keep that in mind: you have a purpose in this world and above all to your family. So if you are not making someone else happy or their life better, then you are just wasting your time.

IV] Live and Let Live: We know scotch and wine, both gets better with age. But we don't mix them to get the best taste. Similarly, you dont have to always peek upon your partner's life to see what they are doing ......... stay out of their business and he/she will stay out of yours. In a sentence, give them their space to explore themselves ........... you are not the only friend he/she has in the entire world.

V] Make him/her feel Comfortable around you: This is probably the most important aspect to look for. Always make sure you are not feeling your partner uncomfortable. Always acknowledge and encourage him/her to do what he/she desires. Guys, be a man of your words .......... when you promise, deliver it and Girls, dont feel awkward to acknowledge it.
               So if you have love for your partner, always make sure you follow these.

You probably be wondering now, whats my result. Well I am still waiting for my partner to get revealed. Maybe she is one of my friends but cant justify too clearly.

  Anyways, if you look things in a different way, have another insight on this matter then you'll realize that to nurture a feeling that you like a girl and that girl also likes your presence is much more satisfying than having a heartbreak. You must remember, true friendship is the greatest gift you can have. You can only get closer to your partner if and only if you are his/her true friend. Then why you're afraid of getting friendzoned? 

Views on Love

Okay its been 2 months I wrote my last blog so I have to keep my promise. In the last blog I told that I would share my views on Love next. But before saying my views lets ponder what is this 'love'??? How can it be defined?? I define it with a little complexity because this thing IS complex. Generally love is defined as a feeling that can change human nature but additionally I would like to tell it is THE complex chemical reaction initiated by our Master Gland which brings about massive change in most essential bodily reactions in a small period of time. :D :D :D :D. Actually the fact is, it is so amazing that even science has failed to give an apt reason for this 'feeling' .Because how can biochemical reaction gets altered just by a simple conversation or (even worse) a look? And whenever I think of this I feel that maybe the stories of rishis (turning opponent into ash by looking hard) in Satyajug of Indian mythology can become true in the future  :-/ :P.

 Well the last line was of my version. But I think any reader will realize that I am just trolling and wasting their time. But the question is why I am saying this? The answer is simple. I am in love and I have experienced how it changed my routine. But this did not come by 'first sight', it rather came through long conversations and discussions. It was never that 'googly eyed' conversation because honestly I never met her. But what attracted me was her way of inspiring, inducing positivity and helping a friend. However I wont tell anything about how she looks or where she lives and what she deserves in her prince charming :wink: but I can tell one thing that I may not be a prince but I can become a Shrek for her. But who am I kidding, its a one sided love. :P. I know I should ask her about me too but I also know the possible answers (considering the negatives) and I still haven't (with that affection + attention)  because it would hurt more than the pain of migraine :P. Since am a Cancerian its written that whom I'll love, I'll love more than myself. So I only wish for her happiness but how to become sure she will be happy unless I see her happy everyday?

Anyways its an obvious fact that I want only the best for her but how to express this in front of her? I know if I confess she may get a little offended that I have turned out just like another guy but I want to appear, not appear, want to be more than that. I want to be that person of her life on whom she can trust upon, share her all the sorrows with and assure her that 'no matter how disturbing a matter may be, I will provide a solution'.Coz I don't know, everytime I talk with her I feel lively, makes me to take a positive insight upon my life and that has helped me to become more mature I was previously.
Now I don't know if she would be reading this or not but if she does, I pray she don't cutoff friendship with me (although I know for sure she will rebuke me :P ). And the fact I revealed this, in this way is, she is the one I have waited this long and didn't even try to get popular among other girls.

Jump_Start(about_me)

I had opened this blog of mine since February but didn't care to post anything ......... coz of 2 things: 1> A ground; 2> Time; And it is now 4AM, when I am writing the 1st blog of my life. Its funny because I dont know what happened to me suddenly today that without dozing off I completed an online e-learning and then hooked up on writing my thoughts. Well a logical explanation is, I finally got both the things I was lacking. Anyways the ground of this blog is to introduce myself more. The 'about me' sections mostly tell to write a brief abstract about one's self but telling about myself in my own blog in an abstract format sounds dumb to me. :P. To begin with lets start with my birthday. I was born in July 15th, 1985 in Kolkata and as per the general characteristics I fall in the 3rd category of Cancerians. So I figured out why I'm easy to dupe. Because once anybody gets access to my core, gains my trust, I automatically start treating him/her as my friend ......... regardless of the sense that they might be just utilizing me <Yeah my 6th sense is little strong but still habits are hard to let go>. Thus I got an addiction to play chess too. Although I lose mostly to AI and my elder brothers, the +ve thing I developed, is to try more .............. which has actually developed my moves. :). So basically I'm sort of a foolish guy and so life has become a bit hard trying to live by the morals and above all honesty and helping others. Maybe because of this I don't give up easily on which I hold on to. As for example, although having been recruited as an IT professional, I still haven't gave up on my dreams to become a doctorate ............. still haven't gave up on the idea of my project. Because I believe in myself and I believe I can leave a mark behind.
               Anyways, that sounds pretty hardcore confident but what  to do .......... its my inner desire. Now talking about the hobbies of mine, I have already mentioned some in about me section but I would like to mention singing and playing games specifically computer games, foremost. Although I don't have experience of stage performance in my life, I can perform in front of my friends during a gathering and according to them I sing well. Besides I love to download cool, high graphics games, movies, songs, music videos you name it. Beside this I have a weird,umm u may say, 'characteristic'. Since I've studied Biotech and whenever there is an argument about validity of superheroes like HULK or WOLVERINE I jump into it giving extensive proof that they can exist and one day they can be engineered. :P. I also love to create memes in my leisure times specially when i feel bored.
                  Beside these I love to mix with all sorts of people. All the friends I have managed to make till now still maintains a good relationship with me, and whenever I talk to them brings smile to their faces. Thats one achievement I can boast about ................ that my name can bring atleast a smile in people's faces. But 1 thing I am reluctant to share with anyone is the small world inside me ........ where I nurture my dreams, thoughts, to-do things and particularly memories. 
                  All the above things I focussed about my likings, so coming to what I hate, hurting others sentiments takes precedence. Followed by that is self-appraisal and taking credit of others work. I like to think new and create novel ideas. But the world is harsh and cruel to 'new'. Still I want to hold on to that because only that has the potential to change anything and everything. I had lost my beloved father right after I passed my B.tech so trying hard to live by his taught morals and side-by-side maintaining my selfless attitude and power to love others unconditionally. Thus I can sense that I need more than a friend, a girl or more like a guide in my life who can accept me and realize my needs more than me so that life can become a little easier. And right now I am thousands of miles far away from my home for which I am feeling the need more. :(
                   But I won't start about my views on love now. I must get some sleep else I will snore in the class tomorrow. But 1 thing I would like to mention about my view: If you can accept me and love me as the person I am, then I will be yours and only yours ............. no matter what may be the society or even the world may think ................... Its not pride, its actually the way I am. :)